HOW TO HELP SOMEONE WHO IS DEPRESSED?

It is often difficult to know what to say to someone who is very depressed - it may seem that you can't say anything right because they interpret everything in a very pessimistic way. 

Ø     It can be very difficult to know what they want - this is hardly surprising because often the depressed person does not know themselves what they want. 

Ø     They may be very withdrawn and irritable but at the same time unable to do without your help and support. 

Ø     They may be very worried but unwilling or unable to accept advice. So try to be as patient and understanding as possible. 

Ø     The most important thing to remember as you help someone with depression is to remain supportive. 

Ø     Blaming the depression on the person, trying to "make them snap out of it" and other confrontational techniques can backfire and make the situation worse. 

It is important first to let the person know that you are concerned about her or him, want to help and are willing to be a resource. 

The way that you help may range from just listening to recommending that the person contact a mental health care provider for assistance.